On slut shaming and Nigerian men

Apparently slut shaming is still a thing. The other day I was at a house party with a couple of friends, when a nigger tried to slut shame a girl he had apparently been pursuing, but had turned him down. In plain words, he wanted her for sex and she refused. But instead of being […]

Apparently slut shaming is still a thing.

slut-shaming
The other day I was at a house party with a couple of friends, when a nigger tried to slut shame a girl he had apparently been pursuing, but had turned him down. In plain words, he wanted her for sex and she refused. But instead of being a man about it, probably going to find a more willing partner, the next thing that comes out of his mouth is: ‘Well! I’m not interested in you anymore anyways. A nigg*r of mine already f*cked you. You’re old news’
Em, wait a minute!
In this part of the world, there is a concept of mutuality and consent some men do not understand, and it is definitely disturbing. I don’t know whether to blame religion or society or nature? All three have positioned men in a place of taking, pursuing; an active sort of role.
I’m not here to argue against the active role of men in the society. It would be like flogging a dead horse.
But what I would say is this: there are some things men have to realize is not exclusively based on them, or their decision or what they invariably choose .
Sex for example is supposed to be mutual. So attempting to use sex as a tool to shame another into silence is plain ol stupid, and childish.
Especially, when you do it with an idea that sex is something you do to the other. Not something that involves two consenting adult.
To make a statement like that is totally ignoring her choice in the matter. Here are a few things that may have eluded your small mind:
Number 1: Your nigg*r didn’t fuck the girl. The correct term to use is: they had sex. Two people. Two consenting adults had sex.
Number 2: She made a choice. Because guess what? She can. If she chooses to sleep with one and not the other, that is her business. You must respect it.
Number 3: Your tactic is old and cheap, and definitely childish. Attempting to use sex to shame the other is just stupid. It tells me more about your level of maturity, than anything else.
Number 4: I think the idea of broadcasting what you do with anotherin private is disgusting. At least, what is private, should be private, right?
And unless, I ask of your sex life, it is not my concern. Even if I do ask, you’ve the right not to answer. Again! Not my business.
So sorry, slut shaming is stupid. That girl made a choice, and she didn’t choose you.
Deal with it.

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N.B: This article deviates a little from the primary topic of Lekki Republic but then it’s a societal issue which we feel obligated to talk about.

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Amynah Dauda is a writer and a lawyer. She loves reading, hanging out with friends and writing. You can reach her via [email protected]

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